Myth 11 : People be together because they love each other...

Sejak dari zaman dlu2 lg mesti ade couple yg x bahgia dgn pasgn masing2...maklumlah semua kehidupan ade pasng surutnyer...tp mcm mane klo relationship tu slalu ade 'bad times'??? adekah masalah tu datang daripada keadaan sekeliling,mase ataupn pasangn itu sendiri??? semuanyer bermula dr 1st date,klo 1st date tu baik,br la kita akn bwk perhubungn tu ke peringkt yg lebih serius,dan makin serius n akhirnyer kawen... tp dr dlu lagi kite slalu dgr byk pasagn yg bercerai sbb x serasi...mcm mne kite nk pastikn spgn kite serasi??? mcm mne plak kite nk pastikn yg pasgn yg kite syg tu sbnrnyer yg terbaik untk kita??? ...dlm erti kate laen, HOW NOT TO DATE THE WRONG GUY????

Tak semua org couple sbb die jatuh cinta,ade yg jatuh cinta sbb rupa,harta dan laen2...tp kadang2,walaupn kita sedar yg pasagn kita tu x cukup baik untuk kita tp kita tetap teruskn relationship tu dgn diorg...kenape jd mcm tu??? adekah sbb kita sgt desperate untk mendapatkn belaian?? ataupn ade sbb lain??? Majority wanita di dunia ade 5 sebab utama kenape diorg stay dalam satu relationship walaupn diorg tau pasangan mereka tu bukan yg terbaik untk diorg...

1. Sunyi...
Sunyi ataupn insecurity adelah sebab utama kenape perempuan stay dalam satu relationship yg sebnrnyer takde mse depan langsung...bile tengok kawan2 laen semua ade pakwe,diri akan pikir ape akn jadi kalau diri sendri break dgn kekasih yang ade...nnt sunyi xde org nk msg,nk tgk wyg xde org nk teman,nk shopping xde org nk angktkn beg shopping n mcm2 lagi la...n di sebabkan alasan itu la,ramai perempuan decide untk stay dalam relationship yg ade walaupn diri sedar yg diri sendri dh x sebahagia dlu...kdg2 ade juga yg takut untk tinggalkn relationship yg ade kerana takut diri sndri xkn jumpe yg sebaik yg die ade sekarang...mungkin klo sekrg tgh couple dgn doctor,msti la tkot nk break sbb tkot nnt susah dh nk couple dgn doctor jgk ataupn yg sewaktu dgnnyer...

2. Percaya couple boleh tolong selesaikn masalah...
Mcm dlm proverb english ade kte "behind every successful man,there is a women... "  mungkin sbb proverb niyh,ramai yg x yakin diri akan berjaya dalam kehidupan tanpa teman hidup...mungkin yg pointer x brpe bgus tu akn rse,diri akn lbh rajin bljar klo couple dgn bdk sme clas,so bleh stdy sme2...ataupn artis akn rse diri akn lbh berjaye klo couple dgn producer filem...ataupn mungkin bg sestgh lelaki yg x pndai uruskn diri,diorg akn rse dgn couple,diorg akn ade seseorg untk tolong diorg bsh n gosok bj...tp sbnrnyer xde pn konsep mcm tu...korg bkn nk kawen pn..walaupn couple,kite msih perlu jd satu individu supaye kita xkn terlalu bergantung pada each other dalam hidup kita...sbb x sure pn diorg tu akn jd part of your future!

3. Faktor luaran...
Selain faktor dlm diri,faktor luaran pun kdg2 turun menyumbng kepada seseorg untk couple tanpa berfikir pnjng dan teruskn relationship walaupn diri sedar diri tengah buat satu keputusan yg silap...tengok sekeling semua kawan2 dh couple,seronok hidup ade org disisi...setiap kali blk kampung,m.cik joyah sibuk tnye "ko dh ade boyfren limah???" limah pn tunduk malu2 sbb xde org nk kt diri walaupn kt fb dh ade smpi 1000 friends...bende niyh mmg jd dlm kehidupn seharian xkira kita sedar ataupn tidak mak cik joyah td adelah faktor luaran yg mungkin akn menyebabkn limah couple dgn mat2 bangla mne2 sbb nk ade boyfren punyer pasal...

4. Percaye si dia akn berubah...
Mse awal couple si dia ckp lembut,lepas setahun si dia  dh start memaki hamun korg bile anda terlupa nk msk sayur asam taruk belacan mcm cite p.ramlee tu...si dia bkn lagi lelaki idaman korg yg korg couple sethun yg lps...mengikut kajian,sifat sebenar manusia hanya akan dapat dilihat selepas satu tempoh mse kita bersama dia...jd klo si dia yg baik dlu dh jd mcm hantu,maknenyer sifat asal si dia adelah hantu...jangan la korg harapkn si dia akn berubah jd si dia yg korg kenal mse awal2 couple dlu...ade juga sesetgh perempuan yg jatuh cinta dgn badboy sbb ke'macho'an bila si dia minum arak dgn sekali teguk mse 1st time knl...tp bile dh couple,mula la harapkn si die berubah jd lbh baik...si macho yg pndai minum arak td dilarang minum arak dh,dan d pakse pergi masjid...bak kte pepatah "melentur buluh biarlah dari rebungnyer..." susah nk ubah tabiat buruk manusia...ape yg korg expect klo korg knl sorg laki dkt club tp harapkn die akn jd imam bile couple dgn korg...klo korg betul harapkn die berubah,ape yg korg mampu hanya la berdoa...tp tanggapan yg si dia akn berubah untk korg adelah silap yg pling beasr perempuan slalu buat!


5. Abaikn petanda buruk...
setiap org akn ade perangai buruk masing2....yg membezakn adelah sejauh mne kita dpt menerima perangai buruk si dia..ape yg menjadi mslh apabila perngai buruk si dia adelah perangai buruk yg anda pling anti sekali.. mcm dlm cerita "he's just not that into you..." mungkin ramai yg rse isteri bradley cooper tu gila sbb die boleh maafkn suami die yg curng tp bila die tau suami die smoke,trus die nk mntak cerai!
 logic je bnde tu sbnrnyer klo si isteri mmg x suke dan anti dgn lelaki yg smoke...jd si isteri ambil keputusan untk hentikn relationship yg ade sbb si suami dh langgar limit prangai buruk yg si isteri boleh terima...sme la mcm dlm kehidupn seharian kita,klo anda suka kucing,sanggupkah anda kawin dgn si dia yg suke sepak kucing walaupn si dia mmg lelaki yg baik dan menghormati org tua anda???? tepuk dada tnya selera...adeakah anda snggup abaikn perangai buruk si dia yg anda anti dan teruskkn relationship yg sedia ade???

Semua2 alasan di atas adelah sbb kenape perempuan stil stay dalam sesebuah relationship yg ade...walaupn anda mungkin rse tu masalah kecil,tp jika dilihat dari sudut laen,can u deal with it for the rest of ur life??? korg couple sbb korg sunyi,xpn sbb korg rse relationship yg ade boleh bntu korg jd seorg yg lbh baik, ataupn sbb m.cik joyah td sibuk presure2 korg... then lps tu korg decide untk stay dgn laki yg ske curng sbb percaye die akn berubh satu hari nnt,ataupn sbb anda abaikn perngai buruk si dia??? semua tu sbnrnyer petanda yg si dia bkn untk korg...cume korg je yg kne brni terima kenyataan tu dan move on supaya korg xkn date dgn org yg salah lg selepas ini!!!

p/s : when a relationship goes wrong,ade byk petanda yg kita xnmpk ataupn kita abaikn sbnrnyer...

Is it a mistake?

Was it my mistake?

When I thought that you‘re going to be my mate?

And kiss u on the 1^st date

As I’m afraid it’s going to be too late…

Or is it your mistake?

When u save me from the blade?

And drown me in your love’s lake?

As you’re healing my heart when it break…

Perhaps it was our mistake?

When we’re too proud of the relation we’d made

And think all tears were worth paid.

As we have each other to celebrate…

Maybe it had never been a mistake?

When we choose to open the love gate,

And decide on the future that won’t fade,

As we both are smiling to the fate…

Myth 10 : Love is shown by action,not words...

Bak kte pepatah,sayang ank tangan2kn...sayang kekasih,layan2kn??? hahahaha...yg psl kekasih tu tipu...yg tu bkn pepatah...tp betul ke bile semua kasih sayang kite dh ditunjukkn melalui perbuatan,kata2 dh x di perlukn lg untk bgtau yg kita sayng pada si dia...SALAH tu...bedasarkn kajian,lelaki akn tertarik pada ape yg di lihat manakala wanita pula akn lebih tertarik dgn ape yg die dengar...jd mungkin bagi lelaki cukup la klo wanita tu layankn je ape yg laki tu mntk,tp bg wanita,mereka tetap perlukan kata2,janji dan ayat2 manis lelaki untk menguatkn lagi perasaan sayang antara mereka...kt sini ade beberapa 'magic words' ataupn kata2 semngat yg akn 'boost'kn perasaan kasih syg antara couple tu...

Magic Words 1 : I Love You...
Mmg comfirm la niyh perkataan yg pling penting dlm satu relationship...tanpa perkataan niyh,mmg mcm x couple je...even scandal pn tau cakap I Love U...apetah lg couple..sbb perkataan niyh la yg tunjukkn kasih sayang antara dua insan...
*Rule untk perkataan niyh - JGN UCAPKN KEPADA 2 ORG ATAU LBH PADA SATU TEMPOH WAKTU YG SAMA...mmg x ah korg jatuh cinta dgn beberape org dlm satu mse yg sme kn...tu bkn love,tu lust!!!

Magic Words 2 : I Miss You...
I miss u ataupn saya rndu awak adelah ucapan kedua terpenting dlm relationship...ucapan niyh jgk yg kedua pling commn di ucapkn dlm satu relationship...dgn ucapan i miss u,kita dpt bgtau pasagn kita yg kita sygkn dia walaupn masing2 sedang berjauhan...
*Rule untk perkataan niyh - HANYA BOLEH DI UCAPKN SEKIRANYA BETUL2 BERMAKSUD...x logic la nk ucap ari2 klo korg satu skola dan duk seblh2 dlm kelas...mse yg sesuai untk ucapkn perktaan niyh adelah pada pertemuan yg pertama lps lme x jmpe...

Magic Words 3 : I'm Afraid to Lose You...
Magic words yg agak jarang di gunakan oleh lelaki kecuali lelaki yg sgt ske bwt perangai...tp percaya atau tidak,magic words niyh sgt memberi kesan yg mendalam dlm hati seorg wanita...dengan ucapan niyh,seorg perempuan akn rse diri die lbh di hargai drpd waktu2 biase...
*Rule untk perkataan niyh - SESUAI DI UCAPKN SELEPAS BERDAGUH...setiap kali bergaduh,couple akn rse perasaan kasih syg tu makin berkurangan antara mereka...jd dgn ucapan niyh,perasaan sayang dalam hati tu Insyaallah akn bertambah blk...

Magic Words 4 : I Trust You...
Trust ataupn kepercayaan merupakan salah satu elemnt yg pling penting dlm relationship...kurang kepercayaan akan mengakibatkn pergaduhan sbb jeles or ape2 konflik yg sewaktu dengannya...sebagai seorg kekasih jgk,kite kena la percaye dkt psgn kita klo kita betul2 nk kawen dgn die...klo xde kepercayaan dlm satu hubungan,maknanye hubungan tu mmg xkn kemane...
*Rule untk perkataan niyh - PALING SESUAI DI UCAPKN APABILA TIMBUL SYAKWAH SANGKA...tp slalunya ayat niyh di ucapkn last skli pada waktu anda tau,atau pn mmg rse die x bersalah...utnk cover balik malu sbb bwt tuduhan melulu,sila la pki ayat niyh...

Magic Words 5 : I Support You...
Perkataan niyh mcm agak jarang la die ucapkn...tp mcm cerita 'How I Met Your Mother' pernah ckp,perktaan niyh akn memberikan satu rse penaik semagt untk satu individu yg tgh bwt keputusan dlm situasi tertentu...bg awek yg ckp mcm niyh kt pakwe die,msti la pakwe die rase lbh dominant lps dgr perkataan niyh di ucapkn oleh awek mereke...
*Rule untk perkataan niyh - HANYA BOLEH DI UCAPKN APABILA PASANGAN MEMBUAT KEPUTUSAN YG WARAS DAN WAJAR...klo pasgn tu amik keputusan untk bunuh jiran sblh rumah die yg langgar ank kucing kesayangan die,jgn la plak korg g support...mmg x msk akal la kn...

Selain 5 perkataan di ats,mungkin setiap pasgn akn ade ayat2 sweet msing2 yg diorg ske...tp ape yg di beri niyh boleh di katekn sgt basic n sesuai di gunakn oleh semua psgn x kire dh lme atau pn baru couple...tp jgn la tau ckp je,tindakan pn kne bwt jgk! klo cmpur due2 tu br la lengkap satu hubungn tu...sedap mate memandang bile date,sedap telinga mendengar bila gayut n sedap hati menerime bile2 mse.. :)


p/s : done with the words,this poem plak ckp psl perkara2 yg menarik yg boleh di lakukn oleh seseorg untk psgn die untk menarikkn lg perhubungan tu...

The Best Thing About You

The best thing about u is wonderfully sweet,

I found it sweeter than a kiss on my cheek,

When u know exactly about everything I need,

It require my body need not to speak…

The best thing about you is so clear,

You make me feel safe with the things that I fear,

It’s not when you hold me tight in your arms dear,

It is when you promise to be with me forever…

The best thing about you can be seen through,

You give me sign when the world gives me no clue,

Not from your words that say you love me too,

But from your eyes that told me your love is true…

The best thing about you is not what you do,

Neither what you have in your life if you only knew,

As there were no vaccination for you love endemic flu,

I couldn’t stop myself from falling in love with you…

Myth 9 : I love you without a reason...

"Love me for a reason,let the reason be love..." lagu dlu2 yg sgt sweet...tp sweet je la...sbb x realistic lngsung lagu tu...myb untk 1st love boleh la... "i syg u seadaanya...xpe u x kaye,u x hensem,u x pndai,kite mkn pasir sme2 pn x pe...nnt ade ank,kite xyh bg die pkai pampers,pki daun pisang je... " hahahaha...funny...xyh nk over sgt la k...betul ke kte boleh cintakn sum1 tu tanpa ape2 sebab??? kekal ke cinta yg mcm tu???

Hakikatnya cinta tanpa alasan tu x pernh wujud...kita akn jatuh cinta pada seseorg dgn sebab yg tertentu..cuma kite perasan ataupn tidak...itu je...mungkin kite x prsn ape sbb kite jatuh cinta padasi dia...tp klo kite dpt listkn at least satu bnde yg mnrik hati kita yg ade pada si dia...itu la sbnrnye sbb kita jatuh cinta... :)

Sbnrnye ade la beberape faktor yg perlu di pertimbngkn sebelum kite terus terjerumus ke lembah cinta yg akn terus mengheret kita ke alam perkahwinan itu...tp klo anda rse anda bercinta untk saje2 dan bkn untk bwk cinta tu ke alam perkahwinan,jd perkara2 di bawah mmg x penting untk anda pertimbngkn...

1. Cinta dan RUPA...
Paling mnrik n slalu org bwt...slalunye cinta niyh ade pada lelaki...lelaki akn cintakn perempuan untk rupa diorg...mungkin perempuan tu punya muka xperlu secantik Cleopatra (xsure cntik sgt ke x,sbb x prnh tgk) and body se'hot' body Byonce tp asalkn org kate sdp mate memandang dh cukup...kekal ke cinta pada rupa niyh????

Ramai yg kte rupa x kekal smpai bila2..mungkin klo cinta pada rupe semate2 xkn kekal,tp ape yg boleh kite boleh ubah adelah jadikn rupa yg pernh menarik perhatian kite tu sbgai titik permualaan untk mencari cinta yg ade pada diri si dia...org kte klo dh syg,buruk mcm mne pn jd cantik...jd klo mula2 kita jatuh cinta dgn die sbb die hot mcm artis,tp klo perasaan syg yg mula2 sikit tu main bertambh dari hari ke hari,walaupn si dia punyer kecntikn telah di mamah usia,cinta tu ttp akan kekal smpai bila2...

2. Cinta dan HARTA...
Cinta pada rupa slalu ade pada lelaki,cinta pada harta niyh plak majoritynye ade pada perempuan...sifat semula jadi perempuan,mereke memerlukn satu perlindung ataupn perasaan 'secure' dlm diri mereke n mintak maaf byk2 zaman sekrang niyh mmg majority merasekn diri mereka hanya akn secure dgn kebendaan...bukan shja lelaki yg berduit boleh bg diorg ape yg diorg nak,tp juga jamianan mse depan...

Klo prnh dgr kesah pasal perempuan yg tingglkn si boyfren yg jual burger sbb nk kt laki yg lbh kaye,perempuan itu sbrnye bersikap realistik kerana die perlukn sesuatu untk menjamin mse dpn die...mungkin dgn keputusan die untk pergi pd lelaki yg ade kereta itu dpt beri die kepuasan n security feeling tu? who noes????

Mungkin org akan cakap,duit xleh bwk mati,tp klo xde duit langsung mmg bleh bawak mati...maksud di sini bukan la kite parlu mencari yg mmg kaye smpai bleh bwt kipas sate dgn duit tu...cukup la dpt bagi kita cukup makan,pakai dan keperluan harian laen...tp kne ingt,keperluan harian semua org berbeza2...jd kepada perempuan,carila seseorg yg boleh tanggung anda setimpal dgn keperluan hidup anda...

3. Cinta dan PERSONALITY
Jarang sgt dgr pasal ktgry yg ketiga niyh...tp tetap ade...kdg2 sesetgh org akan tertarik dan meminati personality seseorg...setiap org ade minat dan cita rasa yg berbeza.contohnya mungkin bg bdk2 yg br nk up,diorg akn minat kepada lelaki yg lbh nmpk seprti 'bad boy' tp untk wanita yg lbh matang,mungkin diorg akn meminati lelaki yg lebih gantlemn,perempuan solahah minat pada hafiz,ade perempuan yg jatuh hati dgn anak emak,or mungkin jatuh cinta dgn lelaki yg fasih berbahasa kelantan...who noes???

Tp mcm mane klo org yg personality tertentu ini berubah??? dlu fasih berbhsa kelantan tetibe ilng ingtn x tau dh nk ckp kelantan smpi buah pauh pn dh x tau ape bnde,ank mak jd makin kurng ajar,si hafiz td terlalu asyik tgk AF smpi lupa mcm mne nk hafaz surah yassin??? scary kn bile byngkn bnde2 mcm niyh...stgh org percaye bahawa major behavior sesorg susah nk ubah...jd klo nk minat personality seseorg tu,pastikn minat anda adelah pada major behavior die...xyh la nk minat org sbb die ske pkai kasut adidas...xkn esk bile die minat nike korg nk tinggl die plak...

4. Cinta dan KERJAYA
Sebahagian bsr daripada perempuan akn cube untk mencari pasgn hidup yg mempunyai kerjaya yg same dgn ayah mereke....tp ade jgk mmg xde kne mngne dgn keluarga...contohnya anak seorg pilot akn tertarik untk mencari psgn hidup yg berkerja sbgai pilot,sbb ape??? kerana mereka tahu apekah kelebihan menjadi sbhgian drpd keluarga pilot...sme jgk mcm ank engineeer dan ank doctor...

Walaubagaimna pn kite kne la cari pasgn hidup yg sesuai dgn kita...mungkin kite tertarik untk mencari psgn hidup yg bekerja sbgai lawyer,tp klo diri tu mmg xleh org lwn ckp,sila la lupekn hasrat hati tu...sme jgk klo anda berminat dgn doctor,tp kuat jeles...xperlu la cari pakar sakit puan untk jadi teman hidup anda...mmg sumpah x sesuai la mcm tu...

5. Cinta dan MASA DEPAN...
Cinta dan masa depan adelah elemnt yg pling penting yg kita kne tgk...mungkin berkait rapat dgn cinta dan HARTA td...tp ade la laen sket..cinta dan harta scope nya lbh tertutup contohnye seseorg akn cintakn seseorg dgn ape yg org itu ade pada ketika dan saat itu...tp cinta dan mse dpn pulak adelah lbh realistik...kita dpt byngkn mcm mne hidup kita dgn si dia untk berpuluh2 tahun akn dtg...x kesahla dari segi harta,perangai,aktivity harian dan laen2...

Contohnye klo kita jatuh cinta dgn tukang msk yg suka pakse kite mkn mknn yg die msk,snggp ke kite hidup mcm tu smpi mati dgn die??? bg yg suka mkn mungkin snggp,tp bg yg diet,pndai2 la pikir sndri...mungkin mse bercinta bnde niyh nmpk x penting sgt...tp cube byngkn klo dh kawen??? snggup ke kite berhdpn dgn bnde yg sme hari2???? kajian dari JAIS ade menrngkn salah satu sbb pasangn muda kerap bercerai adelah krna masing2 tidak dpt bertolak ansur dgn psgn msing2 krna kurang sefahaman dlm rumah tngga...jd kepada yg tgh bercinta tu,tolong la pikirkn mse dpn anda dgn psgn anda sebelum bwt ape2 keputusan...

p/s : a sweet n simple poem for some selected careers... :p

Career of Love

Be my lifetime singer,

As I will always be your listener…

Be a police officer,

So you can protect me from danger...

Be the great engineer,

And let us build the relationship together…

Be my specialist doctor,

Please do save me from the heart breaker…

Myth 8 : Never go back to your ex...

Hahahaha...msti ramai kt dunia niyh g couple arinie,esk break,luse couple blk sejam lps tu break pulak...yg tu kire laen case la ek...ape yg nk d smpaikn kt cni bkn psl couple yg tu...tp psl yg couple,break for a while pastu couple blk...
Generally yg seseorg tu hanya boleh get over their ex after certain time la...tp byk yg blum jmpe yg br,or myb kdg2 dh jmpe yg br but decide untk blk dgn ex dirog blk...hurm...actually ade la beberape sebab knpe balik dgn ex x brpe elok untk relationship korg...

1. U are repeating the same mistake again...
It had been a mistake...klo x,xkn korg break kn...tp mungkin bile dh break tu kite rse silap sbb lepaskn org yg kita sayang pergi...forget about all the good things ur ex had done...do remember the main reason why u guys break up. and believe it or not,things will end up the same...korg akn break bwt kali kedua dgn alsan yg sme mse mule2 break dlu...

2. It's not a new relationship...
No fresh relationship,no new start,no new hope,nothing like a new born bby...myb most of you will tell each other "kite lupekn semua yg jd dlu...kite mulakn relationship yg br..." believe it or not,salah sorg dr korg akn ungkin blk cerite2 dr relationship yg lps...mule2 mungkin ungkit psl mse br knl,1st date punye tmpt mkn n all those stuff,tp bile b'borak makin lame, cerite makin meleret mula la di ungkit cerite2 yg xmmnrik hati tu...so mmg x la nk strt over again sbb bnde tu mmg almost impossible...once dh break,blah trus,its end there! xyh nk jmpe2 lg untk ape2 alasan pn waima untk pulang brg or ape2 skli pn...

3. You might hurt someone...
kebiasaannye lps break,semua org akn cari sumone yg diorg panggil 'rebound'...x kesah la si 'rebound' niyh is voluntarily or involuntarily,when u decided to go back to your ex again,u might hurt them...myb bnde niyh x penting untk couple yg dpt blk happy ending yg diorg idamkan selame ini,tp untk ape kebahagiaan yg di kecapi klo kite sebenarnye mengorbankn org laen...

4. People will show no respect for you...
When you decide on something,do stick with it...sgt memalukn bile perpisahan yg berlaku tu dh di canang satu dunia tp tibe2 si polan dan si polan sbnrnye dh berbaik2 blk...tmbh memalukn klo si polan dan si polan dh kluarkn aib masing2 dlm tempoh tgh break tu...org sekeliling akn ade satu tanggapan yg x brpe enak klo bnde2 mcm niyh jd..so untk avoid perkare yg x mnrik mcm niyh,baik pikir betul2 sebelum bwt satu keputusan...

Myb sesetgh org akn rse yg diorg break tu satu kesilapan,myb silap cakap or ape2...lps break,masing2 realised yg masing2 xleh idup tanpa satu sama laen...come on la,sbgai manusia,kite ttp boleh teruskn hidup walaupn tnpa org laen...jd tiada alasan yg kite xleh hidup tnpa kehadiran yg tersayg di sisi...kite semua milik Allah,semua akn kembali kpd-Nya...so klo tuhan decide untk amik kite punyer yg tersayang,xkn kite nk ckp kite xleh hidup tnpa die????

P/S : poem niyh untk org yg betul2 dh bwt keputusan untk break...

It’s Your Choice

You’re not that hot,

You’re not that cool,

But I really love you,

And it’s not a fool…

I can see you,

But I can’t touch you…

I can feel you,

But I can’t have you…

No need for me to make a noise…

You make your choice…

It is your voice…

Myth 7 : Only time can erase the pain...

A break up? what a emotional word for most of us...mmg scary klo break even walaupn hnya dlm mimpi,kita akn nanges guling2...xsemua la yg break sedih mcm tu...sbb stgh yg x sedih tu msti die break sbb die yg mntk break,myb jgk sbb die dh ade penggnti awal2 b4 break...x kesah la pasal case yg lg satu tu...my main point today is about the one who stil can't get over the break up...if u have at least one of these symptoms,maknenye korg stil x get over bnde tu lg...

*keep checking ur inbox (phone or email) and wish that ur ex name will appear...
*keep thinking about ur ex over and over again...
*your tears flooded your house...
*feel alone,depressed  n emotional most of the time...
*lost confidnt about urself...
*lost focus easily and have no aim in ur life...

Have one of those symptoms??? klo ye,comfirm korg stil can't get over ur past relationship...tp nk bwt mcm mne klo bnde dh xde jodoh...klo baik balik pn only few couple can make it forever...tp mostly yg baik balik i bet it won't last...u guys will break up again with the same reason...org slalu kte yg hanya masa boleh mengubati kelukaan hati...tp xkn nk nanges ari2 sementara nk tunggu masa tu ubat hati korg...here are some tips on how to get over a break up?

1.Delete him from ur life...
Delete number die,semua email n msg die dlm phone,gmba die,block die dr fb,buang brg2 yg die prnh bg,bg boxer n baju yg korg x smpt bg kt ex korg kt kwn2 korg or adik kwn korg n bwt je ape2 untk lupekn die...jgn tinggl sket pn bhn bukti yg die prnh wujud dlm hidup korg...
 
2.Let go ur emotion...
Jerit sekuat hati on top of the hill,nanges sekuat hati,jerit name ex korg n maki die sesuke hati or g main layang2...xkesah...bwt ape je yg korg rase bleh releasekn stress korg...jgn g bunuh ex korg sudah la...diff people ade diff cara nk releasekn perasaan yg terpendam...stgh org ske bercerite n stgh org ske menanges...klo korg rse diri pndi tulis novel,tulis la buku cite yg ending die ex korg mati accdnt dgn lori balak pastu myt die kne hempap dgn kayu balak kepale pecah and etc.etc...bwt la ape2 yg korg ske (tp jgn la smpi melampau2) aslkn korg rse tenang sket lps bwt bnde tu...

3. Love urself...
Klo korg rse dh xde org syg kt korg,then u should love ur self more than u do now...treat urself with a stunning and delicious meal (forget about calories count) or go for a vacation at Hawii,duk la presidntial suites mcm cite Forgetting Sarah Marshall,flirt all around and do whatever u like alone.xpn korg bleh try bungee jumping of ape2 bnde gile n extreme yg korg x prnh brni nk try selame niyh..trust me,with all those carzy activity,u will appreciate urself more than before...lgpn g mkn n jalan2 sorg msti la lg save dr g ramai2...

4. Appreciate ur friend..
kwn adalh kelompok korg yg sgt sng n byk mempengaruhi kite slps family...ade stgh org die ltk kwn die pling ats more than thier own family (tu case family yg x brpe bahagia la...) tp x kesah la korg msk dlm keadaan yg mne satu,yg penting klo korg ade kwn,korg akn tau bertapa penting value kwn dlm hidup korg...klo korg rase lonely n bosan,try to hang out with ur friend.spend time with them n try to love them more n more...biar smpi korg rse diorg la manusia pling best yg ade dlm idup korg...pepatah cina ade ckp 'sat lun tai sai' yg mksud die kind of mcm org putus cinta bleh bwt ape2 je la...so klo kwn korg yg memahami n berpegang pada pepatah cina niyh...comfirm diorg akn ikot je ape yg korg nk even korg ajk diorg tgk cite tamil tanpa subtitle kt wayng pn diorg akn redha je...

5. make new friends,find a new one..
some people may call it reboud..but sometimes rebound pn boleh jd serious lme...tp klo korg rse die rebound,jgn la couple...scndal je sudeyh...sbb nnt tkot x fair untk pihak yg akn sengsara tu bile tau yg diorg sbnrnye hanyala seorg rebound... klo xnk ade scndal pn kwn je la dgn semua org...add semua org kt fb,approve semua yg add korg..xkesah la mcm mne care korg nk dpt kn kwn baru yg pnting korg ade kwn baru...myb ade yg akn ckp korg merepek or desperate tp xslh pn klo knl ramai org...korg akn kenal mcm2 org yg prngai pelik2 n bwt korg scry untk coupl dgn org sewenang2 pada mse akn datng...

6. Try to have new commitment...
A relationship is a commitment n when u lost it,u will lost ur aim in ur life...so klo korg dh ilng satu commitment,try to find other thing that can make u commit to it...contohnye jd penanyi je,smbung blaja ke,msk pertndingn ratu cntik or ape2 je la yg bwt korg rse korg ade commitmnt br yg mnrik n boleh bwt korg lupekn ex korg...

Love of All Season

Autum leaves fall together…

Seem to know about me, you and her…

Freeze me in the winter,

As I couldn’t stand any longer…

Flowers color the spring,

White lies become the only hope you bring…

Laying in the summer warmth,

Wishing I was there in your arm…

Myth 6 : What past is past...

Is it true yg kita x patut ungkit semua relationship silam b4 this current relationship? hurm...myb its true,tp selalunye stgh mmg sgt suke ckp psl ex...tp knpe ek?

Reason 1 : I want you to treat me better...
sometime people akn tend to ungkit ape yg dh jd dlm relationship yg lepas dlm this current relationship...for exmple if a man sanggup jalan kaki dari kedah ke penang just untk bagi tisu kt ex die (yg mse tu gf die) yg tgh selseme kt penang mse tu,msti la gf yg skrg nk tau whether he is willing to the same for her of not...klo laki tu x sanggup,reasonble man akn bagi satu jwpn yg sme which is "die syg ex die lbh dr kau!"

Reason 2 : I want to tell you that i treat u better...
sometime dlm sedar x sedar kite tend to bgtau die yg "i lyn u mcm ank raje...x cam ex u yg lyn u mcm sampah tu..." tp of course la stgh org xkn bg ayat sebijik yg di atas...sebagai org melayu yg penuh adab dan sopan,semua bende pn kite nk bg double meaning...so akn jadi la ayat yg mcm "i bwtkn nasi beryiani ayam merah kt u,ur ex prnh msk kt u?"...bnde2 mcm niyh pn bleh jd gaduh walaupn bnde niyh hanya sekadar pertanyaan...tp phm2 je la motif sebenar pertanyaan tu di buat ade satu sbb je...hanya nk bgtau partner kite "i syg u lbh dr ur ex...so don't u ever leave me..."

Reason 3 : I just want to hear you say that i'm better...
Semua manusia akn ade insecure feeling dlm hati diorg...n semua manusia jugak akn hope for a better one after losing something...some people just wanna talk about their partner ex because they want to hear from their partner itself  yg "yes syg,u r the best gf i ever have..."-yes it may be a white lies from someone to their partner bcoz sometimes it may not be true,but one thing for sure it can make your partner smile!

Let u decide

Tonight something had make me cry,

Crying on something that had die,

Wondering the value of my love in your eye,

It is the thing you keep to deny…

Tonight something makes me couldn’t sleep,

There are things that I need to take a peek,

As you action would never be able to speak,

For the long time it had make me sick…

Tonight I’m thinking about the future,

Is there a chance for us to be with each other?

When things have never been any better,

Or should we be like this forever…

Tonight I will leave it for you to decide,

Whether you and I want to continue the fight,

Worst to lose the face of both in forever sight,

Or for us to feel the kiss of good night…

Myth 5 : you need a reason to break up...

Is it true that we need to have at least a reason to break up? hurm...x tau la ye ke x bnde niyh...tp klo kite ckp nk break up,org msti akn tnye sbb knpe nk break? klo x org laen,partner kite la yg akn tnye npe kite nk break dgn die...lps bwt ijtihad yg berterusan,bg aku ade beberape sbb org slalu pilih untk break up...xpn klo korg rse ade tnde2 niyh dlm relationship,mknenye dh 'retak menanti belah' la tu...

1st reason : You cheat or have been cheated in the relationship...
Curang! biase la tu...slalu sng dgr...mnde niyh mcm alasan pling best untk d jadikan alasan nk break...klo partner kite curang,mmg la sedih mcm nk mati...tp mknenye die dh x syg kite.so ape lg,move on la...tp klo kite plak yg curang,mknenye kite yg x syg die...so die yg patut move on la...lgpn kite msti rase malu nk jmpe die lg lps ape yg kite bwt...klo relationship tu still continue pn,msti pihak yg ditipu tu akn asyik ungkit,ungkit dan ungkit...do remember, what goes around comes around...kite bwt kt org,nnt org bwt kt kite blk...relationship yg berasaskn ke'curang'an niyh xkn kekal klo masing2 sibuk nak bls dendam...

2nd reason : You'd lost ur interest towards him/her...
You seldomly talk about your partner when u r with ur fren...klo dlu bf aku mcm niyh,bf aku mcm tu,bile org laen berckp,,korg pn ade je bnde yg korg nk ckp psl bf korg...tp tu dlu la...tetibe skrg lme dh mcm x sebut nme tu...nk sebut sehari sekali pn mcm susah sgt...jeng...jeng..jeng! maknenyer die dh x se'menarik' tu dlm hidup korg dh...myb jugk korg less spend time sme2...so x byk bnde yg boleh di borakkn...so solution kpde bnde niyh,slalu2 la jmpe...bwt sumting yg baru so that x boring...bile salah sorg dh boring,mmg xleh nk ckp ape dh la....

3rd reason : He/sh hurt u in any way...
x kesah la physically torture,ataupn dalaman,korg slalu rase sakit...ade yg rase sakit2 bdn sbb kne pukul,org ade yg sakit hati sbb slalu kne maki,ataupn ade yg sakit2 perut sbb kne pakse makan maknan basi...x kesah la ape2 pn sbb korg sakit,klo sakit tu dtgnye dr prtner korg,so baik la korg move on dan tinggl je si dia tu...sanggup ke korg idup mcm tu untk berpuluh2 tahun lg...klo x snggp,baik sedih skali drpd di sakiti untk seumur hidup...(klo korg yg jenis ske sexs ganas tu laen cite ye...bnde2 yg involve mutual consent x dikira sbgai di sakiti...)

4th reason : You don't smile when u see him/her...
hurm...myb bunyi mcm x penting sgt...tp klo prasan,sumone yg dh ilang prsaan kt partner die x akn senyum bile die nmpk kelibat partner die...klo korg masih senyum bile nmpk muke die,tu mknenye msih ade harapan dlm relationship tu.sum1 xkn senyum bile die nmpk sum1 yg x penting dlm hidup die.kdg2 walaupn org tu xpenting mne,die ttp akn senyum...slalunye bile nk break,sum1 tu akn pilih untk break dlm phone je sbb bile jmpe hati akn cair bile tgk senyuman si dia...nmpk x bertapa hebat the power of smile tu???

5th reason : You cry more than you smile...
hari2 msti ade je bnde yg bwt nangis...xkesah la salah faham or salah satu pihak sje nk cari gduh.bile borak je msti nages.sme ade pasal bnde yg dh lepas,atau pn psl bende baru...mungkin jgk mcm ape yg aku tulis kt ats tadi,diorg ade sakitkn hati korg...tp yg pasti,tujuan utama dlm percintaan iaitu untk hidup bahagia selama2nye x tercapai...matlamat dh jd terpesong menjadi tujuan bercinta untuk kumpul air mata semata2!


6th reason : Indifference
the opposite of love is not hatred,but indifference...ayt niyh mcm familiar...xkesah la dgr kt mne,tp sumpah ayt niyh betul...klo kite benci sum1 means that kite stil care n syg kt die...tp bile kite dh x rse ape2...tu mknenye kite dh x heran dgn die...sme la mcm kwn,klo die bwt prngai merepek,msti la kite kesah dgn ape yg die bwt..tp klo sum1 tu just sesape je kt tepi jln,aku x rse kie akn kesah psl die...same goes with the relationship.klo kite rse kite dh less concern about die,kite dh mcm mls nk dgr psl masalah die,ape yg die ckp semua rse mcm biase je...mse tu korg akn tau yg relationship korg dh smpi kt final stage...


7th reason : You try to find a reason to break up!
klo korg ade bwt bnde niyh,mknenye mmg xleh nk ckp ape la...sbb nmpk sgt korg mmg nk break.korg rse it's time to move on with other person or sbnrnye korg just nk jd indpndnt mungkin...just that korg xtau nk ckp kt partner korg yg korg nk break sbb mmg sbnrnye korg xde alasan nk break! hurm..mungkin tu la yg org kte' xde jodoh'... :(

*p/s : sbb br lepas exm,aritu ade bwt poem break up tp pki principle of law...sesuai untk semua bdk yg amik Law d serate dunia...walaupn aku tau blog aku niyh ade 2 org je yg bc...hahahahah... XD

Nervous Shock

At the time you said it’s over,

You may be liable for nervous shock I suffer,

As the proximity of our relationship is so clear,

But now you regarded me as a mere bystander…

You were there aftermath the fall of my tear,

The feel of love was perceive by your own sense dear,

Distinguish Alcock V Chief Constable of South Yorkshire,

What you did will remain in my heart forever…